<?xml version='1.0' encoding='UTF-8'?><?xml-stylesheet href="http://www.blogger.com/styles/atom.css" type="text/css"?><feed xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom' xmlns:openSearch='http://a9.com/-/spec/opensearchrss/1.0/' xmlns:georss='http://www.georss.org/georss' xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4036109738479884856</id><updated>2012-02-16T04:07:30.167-08:00</updated><title type='text'>(After Being) Inside the Closet</title><subtitle type='html'>Everything that you will read here is the truth.  

This is not about sensationalism or exhibitionism.  

Everything that you will read here is the truth.

This is about being wise enough to understand my present circumstances.

Everything that you will read here is the truth.

This second part is what is occurring.</subtitle><link rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#feed' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/feeds/posts/default'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4036109738479884856/posts/default?max-results=100'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/'/><link rel='hub' href='http://pubsubhubbub.appspot.com/'/><author><name>The (In)Famous SMT</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/16407352583854243149</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><generator version='7.00' uri='http://www.blogger.com'>Blogger</generator><openSearch:totalResults>11</openSearch:totalResults><openSearch:startIndex>1</openSearch:startIndex><openSearch:itemsPerPage>100</openSearch:itemsPerPage><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4036109738479884856.post-1160635167421085324</id><published>2010-07-07T21:06:00.000-07:00</published><updated>2010-07-07T21:07:35.052-07:00</updated><title type='text'>11. Now, hold on a minute!  What's the big idea?</title><summary type='text'>Yep, this is what I intend to take on with this post, or more using this post to introduce the thoughts I will be address. 

"What is the big deal with sex?"

What separates sex and enjoying sex, from breathing, eating, singing, breathing in helium and talking like a chipmunk?  Sex is something our body does.  Sex is supposedly something that our bodies are designed to respond to pleasurably, but</summary><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/feeds/1160635167421085324/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/2010/07/11-now-hold-on-minute-whats-big-idea.html#comment-form' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4036109738479884856/posts/default/1160635167421085324'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4036109738479884856/posts/default/1160635167421085324'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/2010/07/11-now-hold-on-minute-whats-big-idea.html' title='11. Now, hold on a minute!  What&apos;s the big idea?'/><author><name>The (In)Famous SMT</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/16407352583854243149</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4036109738479884856.post-6884232752615256347</id><published>2010-06-23T09:03:00.000-07:00</published><updated>2010-06-23T09:13:27.377-07:00</updated><title type='text'>10. Now for a Little Internet Dating - Craig's List Style (Part 1)</title><summary type='text'>Yes, you did read the title correctly, but bear with me.

It  all started with my big mouth.  Being in college, it is not surprising  that my friends and I discuss (the lack of) our sex lives.  Typically, I  assert something along the lines of "I'm gay, so I really wanted to  have sex, I could get sex, and find a fairly attractive partner.  Bam."   I don't think that many of use are surprised by </summary><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/feeds/6884232752615256347/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/2010/06/10-now-for-little-internet-dating.html#comment-form' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4036109738479884856/posts/default/6884232752615256347'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4036109738479884856/posts/default/6884232752615256347'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/2010/06/10-now-for-little-internet-dating.html' title='10. Now for a Little Internet Dating - Craig&apos;s List Style (Part 1)'/><author><name>The (In)Famous SMT</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/16407352583854243149</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4036109738479884856.post-1890007685047537933</id><published>2010-05-30T11:32:00.000-07:00</published><updated>2010-06-14T19:28:42.926-07:00</updated><title type='text'>9. Now, Normal Teenage Experiences.  Now?!?  I just turned 20...</title><summary type='text'>Ok, I have been telling this story in long form to so many people that I am tired of it.

Short form:
My friends tried to set me up...on Valentine's Day. (Actually, it was at a birthday party, so the date is completely accidental...I would like to believe.)
This is a young man that 6-7 of my friends have be talking me up to for about half a year.  No one bothered to let me know until 2 months ago</summary><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/feeds/1890007685047537933/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/2010/05/ok-i-have-been-telling-this-story-in.html#comment-form' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4036109738479884856/posts/default/1890007685047537933'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4036109738479884856/posts/default/1890007685047537933'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/2010/05/ok-i-have-been-telling-this-story-in.html' title='9. Now, Normal Teenage Experiences.  Now?!?  I just turned 20...'/><author><name>The (In)Famous SMT</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/16407352583854243149</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4036109738479884856.post-3693732141875041254</id><published>2010-03-24T21:42:00.000-07:00</published><updated>2010-03-24T21:42:03.403-07:00</updated><title type='text'>8. Now, the Birds that Fly Overhead Leave a Trail</title><summary type='text'>So here is: I have rape fantasies.


I think this is why: I want to experience it.  I want to dip my fingers in the water.  I want to do what everyone else is doing, but I also do not want to have the responsibility for my own actions.  I want be able to cry "Foul!  Not fair! Not my fault!" and still get to try on the sexual side of being human on for size.

In my mind, it happens with someone I </summary><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/feeds/3693732141875041254/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/2010/03/8-now-birds-that-fly-overhead-leave.html#comment-form' title='1 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4036109738479884856/posts/default/3693732141875041254'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4036109738479884856/posts/default/3693732141875041254'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/2010/03/8-now-birds-that-fly-overhead-leave.html' title='8. Now, the Birds that Fly Overhead Leave a Trail'/><author><name>The (In)Famous SMT</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/16407352583854243149</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><thr:total>1</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4036109738479884856.post-4056242127844059701</id><published>2010-02-18T22:10:00.000-08:00</published><updated>2010-03-24T21:10:38.255-07:00</updated><title type='text'>7. Now, the Final Frontier</title><summary type='text'>I am weird.

I do strange things.

And while I could tell you about all of them, let's not for now.  The one I do want to tell you about as I am letting my hair dry before bed is my habit of arguing with myself in the shower.  Typically I do this on important things.  Sometimes I am arguing between what I want to do and what I feel I should do, and some times I am debating my impression of a </summary><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/feeds/4056242127844059701/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/2010/02/now-final-frontier.html#comment-form' title='2 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4036109738479884856/posts/default/4056242127844059701'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4036109738479884856/posts/default/4056242127844059701'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/2010/02/now-final-frontier.html' title='7. Now, the Final Frontier'/><author><name>The (In)Famous SMT</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/16407352583854243149</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><thr:total>2</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4036109738479884856.post-3690656022057029601</id><published>2010-01-31T12:36:00.001-08:00</published><updated>2010-02-01T16:39:15.132-08:00</updated><title type='text'>6. Now, I Would Like to Apologize</title><summary type='text'>“If we change our actions, we can change our attitudes.  If we change our attitudes, then our hearts will change too.”  My mother told me this.  This is true to some extent, we must reinforce good habits by sheer determination, but at heart these must be beliefs that one holds.  A belief that one holds yet fails to act on.  If you try to convince yourself of someone else's belief by repeating it </summary><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/feeds/3690656022057029601/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/2010/01/now-i-would-like-to-apologize.html#comment-form' title='2 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4036109738479884856/posts/default/3690656022057029601'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4036109738479884856/posts/default/3690656022057029601'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/2010/01/now-i-would-like-to-apologize.html' title='6. Now, I Would Like to Apologize'/><author><name>The (In)Famous SMT</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/16407352583854243149</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><thr:total>2</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4036109738479884856.post-4149148511663089178</id><published>2010-01-11T21:26:00.000-08:00</published><updated>2010-01-30T20:42:13.443-08:00</updated><title type='text'>5. Now for My Gay Agenda</title><summary type='text'>You will hear from some that gays and lesbians have a secret agenda, one we don't talk about in public but one that we discuss freely in our meetings and conferences.    Well golly whiz!  These accusations range from the extreme to the absurd; I thought all my efforts to destroy life as we know it in America were committed all by my lonesome.   I didn't realize that every other gay man was </summary><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/feeds/4149148511663089178/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/2010/01/5-now-for-my-gay-agenda.html#comment-form' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4036109738479884856/posts/default/4149148511663089178'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4036109738479884856/posts/default/4149148511663089178'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/2010/01/5-now-for-my-gay-agenda.html' title='5. Now for My Gay Agenda'/><author><name>The (In)Famous SMT</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/16407352583854243149</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4036109738479884856.post-5940112069580413175</id><published>2010-01-11T21:14:00.000-08:00</published><updated>2010-01-11T21:14:57.859-08:00</updated><title type='text'>4. Now for a Little Freudian Analysis</title><summary type='text'>I've often noticed that I have a propensity towards Asian men; in general I find them more attractive as a population than I do other ethnic lumps.  This has been a source of some guilt for me.  (Fetish is such a tainted word.  And terms like “yellow fever” don't much improve the situation...the still sound like a disease.)  The idea of singling out an entire ethnicity (or more group of </summary><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/feeds/5940112069580413175/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/2010/01/now-for-little-freudian-analysis.html#comment-form' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4036109738479884856/posts/default/5940112069580413175'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4036109738479884856/posts/default/5940112069580413175'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/2010/01/now-for-little-freudian-analysis.html' title='4. Now for a Little Freudian Analysis'/><author><name>The (In)Famous SMT</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/16407352583854243149</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4036109738479884856.post-1325673071129740324</id><published>2009-11-20T20:56:00.000-08:00</published><updated>2010-01-30T20:43:46.266-08:00</updated><title type='text'>3. Now for a Little Emotional Addiction</title><summary type='text'>Facebook friends.  No normal person takes this in an emotional way, right?  Of course not, you are all sane, well-balanced people who realize these things mean nothing, especially when the other person is full across the nation, right?  Of course you are, you don't get emotionally attached to someone you have never, and may never meet.  Sleepless in Seattle and You've Got Mail were a successful </summary><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/feeds/1325673071129740324/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/2009/11/3.html#comment-form' title='1 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4036109738479884856/posts/default/1325673071129740324'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4036109738479884856/posts/default/1325673071129740324'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/2009/11/3.html' title='3. Now for a Little Emotional Addiction'/><author><name>The (In)Famous SMT</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/16407352583854243149</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><thr:total>1</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4036109738479884856.post-7863595687844053575</id><published>2009-11-20T19:54:00.000-08:00</published><updated>2010-01-07T14:06:22.365-08:00</updated><title type='text'>2. Now for a Little Bit of Me</title><summary type='text'> You cannot understand any of this without knowing the person to whom you are listening.  You will find this same post is on each of the other two In the Closet blogs.





Who are you?

5'9” and 120 lbs. of Anglo-Irish-Dutch-German-Hungarian-Slavic-Hispanic-Cherokee nerdy   gay Christian, with a side of Y chromosome and a dash of obsession over anything remotely Japanese (except for anime and </summary><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/feeds/7863595687844053575/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/2009/11/2-now-for-little-bit-of-me.html#comment-form' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4036109738479884856/posts/default/7863595687844053575'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4036109738479884856/posts/default/7863595687844053575'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/2009/11/2-now-for-little-bit-of-me.html' title='2. Now for a Little Bit of Me'/><author><name>The (In)Famous SMT</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/16407352583854243149</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4036109738479884856.post-4293678390503123220</id><published>2009-11-20T19:51:00.000-08:00</published><updated>2010-01-30T22:05:15.637-08:00</updated><title type='text'>1. Now for the Basics</title><summary type='text'>This member of the In the Closet blogs is to be an accurate representation of what I am at present.  I promise not to edit more than the first two posts (the introduction to this blog and the introduction to myself, respectively) unlike I do in the other blogs.  While my other writings are a continual work-in-progress because they are the summation of my understanding of my situation, this is </summary><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/feeds/4293678390503123220/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/2009/11/now-for-basics.html#comment-form' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4036109738479884856/posts/default/4293678390503123220'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4036109738479884856/posts/default/4293678390503123220'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://afterbeinginsidethecloset.blogspot.com/2009/11/now-for-basics.html' title='1. Now for the Basics'/><author><name>The (In)Famous SMT</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/16407352583854243149</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry></feed>
